If I told you that half the people in the United States were single, would you believe me? Well, don’t take my word for it, in 2014 the Bureau of Labor Statistics found that 124.6 million Americans aged 16 years or older classified themselves as single. Alarming figures right? In my opinion, this number should be significantly lower! This is why I’ve given careful consideration to the three questions below and if you answer “yes” to any of them, you should stop telling people that you’re single.
Are you a parent?
If you’re a parent and the kids live with you, I’m talking to you! The moment you have children, you’re responsible for another human beings safety and well-being forever. Single people only have to worry about themselves, hence the term single! I’m not saying you can’t or shouldn’t date because everyone needs love and affection. I’m simply reminding you to tell people that you’re already in a long-term relationship with your offspring. Until the relationship becomes serious, your children should be off limits! The last thing you want is for the kids to get attached to someone that you no longer wish to deal with.
Are you still legally married?
I deal with many individuals that are legally separated or divorced in my life coaching practice. I also facilitate a lot of focus groups on relationships and this one always comes up. Let me be clear, I’m no expert on marriage, but as a married man, I understand that marriage can be emotionally demanding. I also understand that “a marriage gone wrong “can drain you of just as much mental energy if not more! This is because a marriage gone wrong leaves you with emotional baggage which is unfair to inflict upon the next person. If you’re going through a divorce, it might be a good idea to let that door close before you start dating again. I’m not saying don’t date; however keep it all the way real with people! You’re no longer the same person that entered the previous marriage, so take time to find “you” again before diving back into the dating scene!
Do you work all the time?
Some people are married to their work and in my eyes, these individuals are emotionally unavailable. If the person makes good money, owns a company, or is just passionate about what they do, chances are their time is precious. This person is always at the office, on the go, or on the phone. Don’t get me wrong, it’s perfectly okay to date but, if this is you, let the other person know that you’re happily married to your job! The last thing you want to do is lead a person on and have them competing with your grueling schedule.
If you’re single and reading this article, please take a moment to ask yourself these questions and consider the points on each topic. Dating is supposed to be fun and when it becomes a chore, although you don’t have a man or woman, you might not be single. Peace & Love!
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