Would you agree that black men don’t attend singles and networking events? As a person that hosts social events, I often find myself staring at a crowd full of women and it makes me wonder, why? Don’t get me wrong, there are the guys that enjoy attending these types of events and reap the benefits. Either way, the brothers are often M.I.A. when it comes to the events and I just wanted to shine some light on the situation because men are missing out on some great opportunities! I have put together a list of three reasons why men don’t go to single and networking events.
Men are creatures of habit
Who remembers the old television show “Cheers”? The theme song is truly a classic and it became the shows tagline, “Where everybody knows your name”. If you don’t remember, it’s quite alright because the premise of the show was quite simple. The owner of the bar was a guy named Sam, who used to be a major league pitcher for the Boston Red Sox. After a long battle with a drinking addiction that ended his career, Sam opened a bar in Boston, where his buddies came to drink each and every day. I shared this story about “Cheers” because it used to be one of my dad’s favorite shows. I would often get home from school and catch him chuckling from the gut in front of the television watching “Cheers” with a cold brew in-hand. There are many guys that don’t like to be pushed outside of their comfort zone, so they never deviate from the script and try new things. Fellas, if your goal is to meet the woman of your dreams, or better yet, keep the one you have, you have to step outside the box because the good women like to be intrigued!
Men are afraid to court women
There are a lot of single people in the world, especially in the United States. According to the US Census Bureau, half the population is single. It really doesn’t surprise me that there are so many women are looking for their “Boaz” at networking events. If you’ve read the Book of Ruth, you should be familiar with Boaz, so I’ll spare you the details. I referenced that because there are women that’ve never been swept off their feet. There are also a lot of brothers that possess the know-how and power to do it! Why do so many of us men prefer to hit it and quit it? The answer to this question is not at all simple, however my opinion is that some guys prefer not to step up to the plate and be responsible for taking care of another person’s emotional needs. The men that fall into this category are too busy having fun and keeping it moving and the women that attend single and networking events are too serious about life. If a man takes the time to court a woman, he will more than likely be placed on a pedestal like a king. The problem with courting is that it takes time, money, effort, and authenticity. Single and Networking events are great places to begin the courting process but a lot of men would rather sit on the couch and watch the game!
Men are just wired differently
Women can go to the bathroom together, get dressed, and take selfies (ussies)…the list goes on! Men typically don’t do that type of stuff and prefer to roll “Solo-Dolo”! When women see men running in packs here’s what they assume: somebody just got married, they just left a frat party, or just up to no good! When I was on the dating scene, I never wanted to run with a pack of guys because it increases the competition. Was it because of my own insecurities? Well, that’s exactly what it was…of course I wouldn’t have admitted it back then, however I’m wiser now. Like me back in the day, most guys don’t like competition when it comes to women and the last thing men want to worry about one of his boys pursuing the same woman he has eyes for!
So, do you think it’s insecurity that keeps guys away from single and networking events? Who knows or even cares for that matter, maybe it’s just my own experience and thinking? Fellas, I’ll leave you with a simple statement on the topic though; you should attend more single and networking events because you might be missing out on some good information and possibly the woman of your dreams!
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